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3 Questions to Determine If You Have A Healthy Parenting Mindset

Do you have a healthy “Parenting Mindset”? Everywhere we go we are being encouraged to examine and improve our mindset…MIND SET…these two small words joined together hold the key to our success in life.

Whether it is our mindset concerning our jobs, career, personal achievements, relationships or financial status, every expert in the coaching field is telling us that our first step and most critical step to creating what we want is to examine what our mind is set on.

What they are saying, in simple terms, is that how we perceive, envision or anticipate through our thoughts has a huge impact on the results we receive.
  • Business coaches will tell you that if you think you can’t succeed in business that you are wasting your time…success will not come.
  • Personal life coaches will encourage you to focus on what is good and positive and already working in your life in order to gain the improvements you desire because dwelling on what is negative keeps you stuck.
  • Relationship healing coaches take you back in time to think about and remember happier, more joyful times so that you can get your thoughts going in a more positive direction.
Our generation has brought to the forefront the key to help us create the life we want to have. The key is in our understanding of the value, power and impact of our mindset, what our mind is set on and therefore we believe.

In an effort to achieve our desired outcome, once armed with this powerful awareness, the logical response (and the one millions of people are paying sometimes very high coaching fees for) is to change what we currently believe.

For example:
Business Mindset
Negative Belief                                    Contrasting Positive Belief
I can’t compete with the top                 I have a valuable product or service.
experts in my field.
Life Mindset
Negative Belief                                    Contrasting Positive Belief
Nothing ever works out for me.              I deserve everything I desire.
Relationship Mindset
Negative Belief                                    Contrasting Positive Belief
I always attract the wrong person.         I will meet my perfect partner.

These are a few examples of negative thought patterns that our mind can be set on that limits what actually happens in our lives. It is the basic principle of the Universal Law of Attraction that says what you focus your thoughts and energy on will manifest itself as reality. Often times these thoughts loom in our subconscious mind and are out of our awareness. And this is where the real work begins…identifying and releasing the negative thoughts stuck in our mind that are limiting our potential in order to replace them with positive thoughts that will serve our intentions.

Let's examine how this effects how we raise our children.

Just as there are negative beliefs that affect our level of success in business, relationships and life in general there are also negative beliefs that will affect our success as a parent…I refer to this as our “Parenting Mindset”.

By definition, a healthy parenting mindset is a thought pattern that acknowledges and respects your child’s individuality. It sees the role of parents as one who inspires, guides, supports and encourages their child to explore, investigate and experience life in order realize his/her dreams and passion.
A healthy parenting mindset understands that the most important relationship in your children's lives is their relationship with themselves. How they perceive themselves internally as well as their place in the world around them. It is through their perception that they will find their confidence, courage, self-esteem and sense of responsibility. It is a healthy parent who sees his job as one who inspires and guides his children to explore and experience life in order to develop a positive and healthy relationship with themselves, thus learning to trust and rely on their own internal guidance system.

The intention of almost every parent is to raise their children to be happy, healthy and successful. This can only happen when parents approach their parenting journey with a healthy parenting mindset.
Children who are raised by parents without a healthy parenting mindset find themselves reaching adulthood struggling with a whole host of limiting beliefs and thoughts that must be over-ridden in order be able to create the life they want.

What is your parenting mindset? And how do you know if you have a healthy parenting mindset?
Ask yourself these 3 questions to find out…

    1.  A) Am I drawn to teaching my children all I know and have learned about life?
         B) Do I reserve my beliefs and opinions and encourage my kids to form their own based on what they experience?
    2.  A) Do I feel I know what is best for my children?
         B) Do I see my children as individuals needing to find what is right for them?
    3.  A) I believe my job as a parent is to provide rules and boundaries for my children.
         B) I believe my job as a parent is to inspire and encourage my children to establish what they feel is good and positive
If you chose answer “B” for any of the three questions, congratulations…you are well on your way to having a healthy Parenting Mindset.

A healthy parenting mindset does not control,
dictate, or manipulate so that the child becomes what
the parent deems appropriate or successful.

When these things are prevalent in the parent/child relationship the children lose their ability to create their own life and are forced to live life through the eyes and desires of their parents.

By examining your parenting mindset you have taken the first step. And in doing so you are now in a position to move forward to improve and enhance your skills to be the best parent you can be, enabling you to empower your children with the mindset and skills they need to create a life that will bring them their greatest joy and true happiness.

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