I come from a home where ‘ I ‘ was celebrated, ‘I’ was made to feel important and ‘I’ was special. I had a wonderful childhood not because of the things I had but because of the way I was made to feel.
God created each child to be a wonderful unique individual. My oldest is spirited and he loves all the attention he could possibly have. He loves to play with automobiles and planes. My second is calm (now moving on from there) and independent. He loves to play with pots and pans. My third is a mix of both. What motivates one child does not motivate the other. Each of my peas is so different although they are from the same pod. They are uniquely different in their personalities, interests, strengths and capabilities.
As for me I wish every little boy were calm and easy to parent. I wish every little boy would play with automobiles and planes. However I have learned that there is absolutely no value in comparing our children to the other. As parents my husband and I are constantly reminding each other to be conscious not to exercise favoritism. As parents we have realized that each of our 3 children possess different strengths and require unique support to meet their individual needs. It is up to us as parents to be involved with our children, to observe their gifts and to help nourish them. I am reminded of the famous verse “Children are like arrows in the hands of a warrior”. We have to be mindful to raise our children not as objects that we control rather to raise them as powerful tools that we can release for a greater purpose.
Every child is a perfect reflection of God’s magnificent diversity. Lets celebrate each of them for who they are and who they were created to be. Every child is special, every child is unique, and every child is extra-ordinary!