I have women who I’ve been friends with for over a decade. When life gets busy, we may not check in very often. A month (or two) can go by and we haven’t talked. Does this do damage to our friendship? No, because we’ve come to this place of understanding and we know that eventually we’ll reconnect.
"In early friendships, however, I’ve found that if too much time comes in between points of contact this often means that this friendship isn’t going to evolve into a deeper connection. Why is that? Well, you end up creating a cycle: you don’t see the person so you may begin to lose that initial connection you had; you’re not as compelled to reach out because you don’t have a history with that person and likely have other priorities: friends or otherwise. The more time that passes, probably the less likely you are to reach out."