Now, I tend to be of the mindset that we don't need much of a nudge in the right direction when we're "feeling" the task before us. We'll give it all we've got and then some, if need be. BUT . . . there are those instances when the task before us is one of the "undesirables" that we tend to pack away for a future date, or try to forget altogether, because we just don't want to do the thing.
You know what I mean?
It's like this: if there really was such a thing as "Procrastination Station" where we could drop off all the unwanted tasks, wouldn't that be an awesome idea in theory? Well, maybe in theory. But reality always has a way of biting you in the you know what when it comes to facing the truth of the matter. And the truth says that there will ALWAYS be those tasks that are challenging or unpleasant but have to be addressed just like those tasks that are enjoyable or easy to take on and successfully complete.
So since we know we have to get after the undesirables anyway, wouldn't it be in our best interests to make the most out of the situation and put our best efforts forward -- make positive strides to do what we can with the situation and circumstances we're handed?
Well yes, we should? Persevering in the face of adversity, of course, would be the grown-up thing to do. And many times, we GET THINGS DONE because we know we have to (even though there may be some reluctance to do so).
But what about our younger counterparts? What about those children we're raising who are coming across their own "undesirables" that they'd rather ignore, avoid, and hope that the adults in their lives will forget even exist.
Here's the thing, though. Our children are going to come across the same types of challenging and unpleasant tasks that we, adults, face and some that are totally specific to them as they go through their childhood development phases.
So, let me give you a little helpful advice for dealing with the reality of growing pains. We all go through them. And don't we owe it to our children to help them get through those painful times when they have to take on some tasks that may not come as easy to them as they'd like? We do owe it to them. And if we love them and want them to succeed in life, then we need to teach them the importance of having a "growth mindset" to counteract those growing pains that will come along.
A growth mindset will tell a child to not give up when the going gets tough, to put one foot in front of the other and to keep moving forward, to persevere in the face of adversity (as I stated earlier), to try and try again, that practice makes perfect (or closer to perfect than not practicing at all), etc., etc., etc. Sounds like the kind of pep talks we give ourselves as adults, too.
But let's focus on the children and see what we can do to make the learning process (with the growing pains) more tolerable and the undesirable tasks at hand a little more palatable. And here's where I want to reintroduce the question I posed in last Tuesday's post, DOM Build-a-Book Project: Market Research for Incentives Books.
Last week, I shared with you that I would like for us to work together to create a book (or it actually could be "products") that "will incorporate real-life applications that will benefit all of us in helping our children to grow." I also mentioned that this DOM Build-a-Book Project is meant to lead us "toward creating a book that helps us ALL who have children (or know of children) that we'd like to encourage to develop those skills and abilities that will propel them forward in life."
A very lofty but worthwhile and doable goal, I might add. Yes, we can do it. I just need a little participation on your part to get this project rolling.
If you are the parent of a child, mentor a child, or care for a child of elementary school to early middle school age (5 - 12 years of age), I'd love for you to take some time to answer the 10 questions below and send those answers to my Contact page, where I should receive them in my email inbox.
Now, I'll need for you to answer all the questions honestly and completely (to the best of your ability). And for your time and participation, you'll receive your choice of one of the six journal cover themes (located toward the end of the post). Just let me know which one you'd like and I'll email you a copy of it to print out and give to your child to use as a journal cover or a binder cover or whatever your child's heart desires to do with it. And I reserve the right to email you back if I need a bit more info from you on an answer to a question or need clarification on your response.
A few notes about the questionnaire:
Here are the 10 questions:
Here are the 6 journal cover themes (in order from left to right - top row and then bottom row): Beautiful Flowers, Construction Work, Interesting Insects, Safari Animals, Sports Fun, and Sweet Treats. (Please choose one for your child and include the name of your requested journal cover (highlighted above) in your email to me.)
I think I'll close this post out by stating that I intend to include questions for you in each post for the next few Tuesdays until I can get a feel for how I can best serve you with a product that can answer that bolded question that I asked a few paragraphs and bullet points above.
I don't have a predetermined number of questions to ask or weeks that are set in stone for the DOM Build-a-Book Project. We're just going to go with the flow and see what we can create together. There are no time constraints when it comes to crafting quality. So, we'll extend this project for however long it takes to get the results we need. Hope that sounds like a plan worth pursuing.