Crying or time. Personally, I choose time. And this means patience and might just represent your first opportunity to teach that particular virtue to your child.
the Test Mommies’ Experiences It really does help to know what other parents have experienced. The following is what a few of the test mommies had to say.
up three to five times a night. I feel extreme anxiety. During the night, I hear the minutes ticking away on the clock that sits on my night stand, waiting for one or the other to call for me, and with each minute everything seems to intensify.
I often just break down and cry. As I sit here this morning with my coffee next to me, things don’t seem quite SO bleak, but I have to admit that I still feel like crying. I just can’t do this anymore. HELP.
During the first year of life, ababy wakes up frequently during the night. As you have now learned, this is not a problem. It is a biological fact. The problem lies in our perceptions of how a baby should sleep and in our own needs for an uninterrupted night’s sleep.
We parents want and need our long stretches of sleep to function at our best in our busy lives. The idea then is to slowly, respectfully, and carefully change our baby’s behavior to match our own needs more closely.
All babies are different, and some truly do need less (or more) sleep than shown here, but the
vast majority of babies have similar sleep needs. If your baby is not getting close to the amount of sleep on this chart, he may be chronically overtired and this will affect the quality and length of both his nap and nighttime sleep.
Your baby may not seem tired,because overtired babies (and children) don’t always act tired at least not in the ways we expect.
Instead, they may be clingy,hyperactive, whiny, or fussy. They may also resist sleep, not understanding that sleep is what they really need.
Solutions for Newborn Babies Birth to Four Months
Congratulations on the birth of your new baby. This is a glorious time in your life. Whether this is your first baby or your fifth, you will find this a time of recovery, adjustment, sometimesconfusion and frustration, but most wonderfully of falling in love.
infants do not have sleep problems, but their parents do. Newborns sleep when they are tired, and wake when they are ready.
If their schedule conflicts with yours, it’s not a problem for them; they don’t even know it.
Follow these steps each time you sit to feed your new baby:
• Breathe slowly.
• Push your shoulders down, and relax them. (Mothers tend to raise their shoulders during feeding, especially during the first few months.
When your shoulders are up around your ears somewhere, this creates muscle tension in your arms, shoulders, and neck.)
• Circle your head to work out the stress.
• Enjoy a few minutes of peaceful baby time; take advantage
of this opportunity to gaze at your precious little one. Start
• Read, if you enjoy it. (Or read to your baby.)
• Watch television or a movie, or listen to music, if any of those things relax you.
Solutions for Older Babies Four Months to Two Years
In the course of my research and in my own experience, I have discovered that our own emotions often hold us back from making changes in our babies’ sleeping habits.
You yourself may be the very obstacle preventing you from changing a routine that disrupts your life in this case, your baby’s sleep habits.
After all, you probably wouldn’t be reading this book unless you find your baby’s sleep routine difficult to mesh with your own life. So let’s figure out if anything is standing in your way.
Develop a Bedtime Routine This idea may help everyone.
A bedtime routine becomes your baby’s signal that bedtime is
here. It invokes a conditioned response from baby: “Oh! It’s bedtime! I should be sleepy!”
A routine for the hour before bedtime is crucial in cueing and
preparing your baby for sleep. Include any of the following that
you enjoy and that help soothe and quiet your baby:
• Giving Baby a warm, calm bath
• Reading books
• Singing songs
• Playing soft music
• Taking a walk
• Breastfeeding or Bottle-feeding
The hour before bed should be peaceful. Your routine should
be done in rooms with dim lights. Your last step should end in the
quiet, dark bedroom with little talking and your usual go-to-sleep
Write down your routine, and make it very specific.
A sample bedtime routine would look like this:
1. 7:00 p.m.—Bath
2. Massage with baby lotion
3. Put on pajamas
4. Read three books
5. Lights out
6. Sing lullaby
7. Breastfeedor bottle-feed
8. Rub back