How To Balance Your Failures and Successes

In life you’ll have successes and failures.

Delights and disappointments.

When you work for yourself, on your own, and experience these highs and lows, your emotions can run really high as it’s personal.

You’re totally responsible for your results and often there’s no-one to share them with to add some perspective.

You’ll probably fall into one of two camps:

Camp #1:

  • You over-emphasise your successes and celebrate your achievements for so long that you take ages to get back in the saddle and into action.
  • You don’t take your failures seriously and instead blame them on circumstances.

Do this and you’ll waste valuable time and lose momentum as you don’t learn enough, or quickly enough, from your mistakes.

When you look up from the party you’re a week further down the line and you’ve done very little that can be described as productive as you’ve spent so much time patting yourself on the back.

But I reckon you’re more likely to fall into:

Camp #2:

  • You over-emphasise your failures and spend ages agonising over what you did wrong.
  • When you have a success you celebrate for about five minutes before moving on to the next thing on your To Do List.

Do this and you’ll feel unfulfilled and rarely satisfied because you’ll focus on what you’re not doing right and miss the good bits.

Get the balance right.

Don’t Stay Down or Up For Too Long

Yes make sure you look at what went wrong and learn from your mistakes but don’t wallow in them.

By all means celebrate an achieved goal, but don’t take a ‘Whooppeee I’m Wonderful’ break from work.

Everything in Moderation.

I’ll come clean. I’m not a moderation kinda girl. I’m an all-or-nothing kinda girl.

As an over-achiever (a blessing and a curse) I do most things to the max (including eating and drinking!!). I most definitely fall into camp #2.

I hate making mistakes and, whilst I do try and learn from them, I waste so much valuable time and energy getting really cross and mentally beating myself up.

When I achieve something I set out to do, it goes relatively unnoticed. That’s how it should have been andit wasn’t really a big deal.

This modesty isn’t a good thing. I actually think it’s quite unhealthy. I miss the triumphs. I miss out on all the positive emotions that could spur me on.

Take Responsibility

Whichever camp you’re in.

If you’re delighted by your achievements, you can’t dodge your failings.

Likewise, if you bemoan and take responsibility for your failures, then you also have to take credit for your successes. They are a Big Deal.

On Failure

Failure is only a failure if you don’t learn from it.

“What we call failure is not the falling down but the staying down.” Mary Pickford 

How long it takes you to pick yourself up is key.

“When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn from it – immediately.” Stephen Covey 

So, when you fail, ask yourself: “What have I learnt from this?” and “What can I do differently next time?”

On Success

Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is just as important as the outcome so recognise your achievements along the way.

“Success didn’t just happen on its own. You made it happen.”

Don’t ignore or belittle what you’ve done.

Take time out to recognise a job well done. Celebrate your achievements and experience those great emotions. Be proud.

Ask “How will I reward myself?”

This Will Lead To Increased Productivity


You’ll smooth out the highs and the lows and it won’t be such an emotional rollercoaster.

What about you?

Which camp do you find yourself in most of the time? How long do you stay down when you suffer a setback? What do you do to celebrate?

I’d love to hear from you so come and share in the comments below

Views: 35


You need to be a member of Mom Bloggers Club to add comments!

Join Mom Bloggers Club

Comment by Chris Lappin on July 19, 2012 at 4:25am

Hi Amber, thanks for taking the time to read it and comment. There are lots of challenges working from home so I'm pleased it helped.

I've had a quick look at your site and will take a closer read later when I have some more time.

If you fancy hanging out with other women work-from-homers then you're very welcome at

Look forward to connecting :) 

Comment by Amber Williams on July 18, 2012 at 9:03pm

Love this advice as I to work from home and it can be very easy to fall into those two camps and lose momentum along the way, thanks so much for sharing! :)

Latest Activity

Shelby Shidler and Mom Bloggers Club are now friends
3 hours ago
Mom Bloggers Club left a comment for Laura Tucker
3 hours ago
Mom Bloggers Club liked Shelby Shidler's profile
3 hours ago
Mom Bloggers Club left a comment for Shelby Shidler
3 hours ago


© 2019   Created by Mom Bloggers Club.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service