No one is perfect and we all have faced some sort of challenge or hardship in our life, so the first thing to keep in mind is the fact that you are not alone. But our ability to carry on regardless of what we have been through in life merely has to do with how strong we want to be as a person and how strong we want our relationship with God to be. If you are not sure that you believe in God, there is nothing in his messages and what he wants for you that will hurt you if you try to follow them — the only thing that could happen is that you start to become a more positive and more vibrant person with a life to match.
Letting go of the past can be the hardest thing that you ever have to do in life whether you are dealing with loss; have been hurt by someone or victimized; struggle with knowing your self-worth, what you deserve, or what you are capable of and hurt yourself; have been down an undesirable path of any kind; or absolutely anything else that can torment any mindful human being. However, once you are able to build up that strength and do whatever it takes, letting go will definitely be the best thing you have ever done for yourself by far. During a very dark time in my life a very wise man, my dad :-), compared the past to the biblical cities of Sodom and Gomorrah, and those who look back at their past to Lot’s wife who looked back at these cities as God destroyed them after an angel warned them not to do so — and his wife turned into a pillar of salt, she lagged behind as she still held onto such dark places and was “consumed.”
Changing the present
Letting the past consume us wastes away the present and can threaten our futures. If you carry around a lot of negative energy right now, the negative aspects of your past will stick to it like glue. Sometimes just changing your attitude about where you are at currently can make all the difference. Realize when you are being negative and change it. Think positive, *read inspirational books* as daily positive reminders, write down your thoughts or wishes in a journal, and take time for yourself to just breathe and relax while listening to relaxing music. Starting out with these daily positive actions will help you realize that you are in control of the tempo of your everyday life starting whenever you decide to change the simplest aspects of it.
Forgiveness: Not just for others but yourself too
In order to let go we must forgive others AND ourselves. We cannot be positive if we do not forgive others and hold onto regret. Why should you go through life being weighed down by something bad that someone else did? That just doesn’t make sense. You cannot change anyone else’s actions, past and present, only they can. Forgive them, remove them from your life if their actions are an ongoing hindrance to your happiness, and let God continue his work with them. Regret for even the smallest things that you have done in the past can make anyone coward back into negativity. What has been done is done. The simple fact that you regret any of your decisions is all you need to forgive yourself and for God’s forgiveness as well. True regret is repentance and when you repent God can hear you loud and clear. Whenever something pops in your head that you regret, talk to God about it and let it go, it cannot be changed and you will do better by it.
Knowing what you want for yourself and living for that
Why let the weight of your past hold you down when there is so much more in store for you? You won’t find your greater purpose here unless you let go and make room for your greater purpose to blossom. If you cannot find the strength to do so anywhere else, find it in faith – faith that God has an ultimate plan for you here on this Earth and for eternity. Every moment that you dwell in the past is a moment wasted of time that you can be making the most of the present and getting closer to a brighter, more promising future. If you have lost someone, they have moved on from all of this and if they are in a better place there is no reason for anyone to be upset about their departure from here. They are in paradise and feel no loss and therefore will not know you again until you join them when it is your time. They are no longer in your life here but you may see them again one day.
“Every day is a gift, that’s why they call it the present.”
Each new day is a chance to make a change or to completely start again. So right now is the time to finally let it all go. Do not allow what has already happen to consume you. Take advantage of our ability to regain control of ourselves and our lives. Anything that can’t be changed is not worth wasting another moment being miserable over so we need to just learn from it, forgive, let go, have faith, and change ourselves to match everything that we want for ourselves.
If you ever need someone to talk to about absolutely anything you can definitely reach out to me, I don’t care if we haven’t spoken to each other once in our entire lives! It is not my place to judge and I despise gossip because I know what it feels like to be talked about by people who do not know you or your story. We should all be in this together! Do not be afraid to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or message me on Facebook. You are not alone and it’s never too late to use the weight of the past and all of your capabilities to strengthen you so that you can finally lead a positive life ♡