It is fantastic to realize that when it comes to work life balance you can succeed by being your own super hero. When my oldest daughter was a little girl she watched a movie from the Cheetah Girls with words to a song something similar to this:
I don't want to be like Cinderella
Sitting alone in a dark dusty cellar
Waiting for somebody
To come and rescue me
I'd rather rescue myself
When I think about all working women do to run businesses, work jobs, manage families and find time for themselves, I am reminded of this song. Almost every day there are articles in blogs, newspapers, magazines and conversations on television about the struggle to balance work and life. After years of research on this topic, I have come to realize there is no quick fix, there is no one size fits all solution.
If you are struggling to find a way to balance your duties as an entrepreneur, wife, mother, sister, friend and independent woman, stop looking outside yourself for a solution. Instead, recognize the super hero inside yourself. It is inside you that you will find the solution. If you look at the side bar of this blog, among other things you will see the following definition of super hero:
2. mom of 4
I am Janeane Davis. I describe myself as a Superwoman, aka a wife and mother of four. I am an African-American mom blogger whose mission is to inspire, encourage and motivate women to be their best in business and at home.
If you pay careful attention to these words, you will notice that my definition of superwoman aka super hero is different from any other you have read before. I define the term for myself and describe what makes me feel super. In my world, being a happily married women for almost 25 years and raising four wonderful children while running a business and finding ways to encourage, inspire and motivate other women to be their best at home and work makes me a super hero. It means I do great things and have the capacity to do even more.
So often I hear women say they are not super women, that they are not super heroes. Each time I hear those words, I wish I could scream at them, "Yes, you are a superwoman, you are a super hero!" I want to shout those words because according to my definition, if you a responsible for a business, a family and yourself, you are indeed a superwoman, a super hero and you need to recognize that, appreciate it and live it. Do not live under the traditional definition of super hero. Do not live under my definition of super hero. Instead, look at yourself, look at your life and find the wonderful qualities you have and what makes you special, unique and successful in some way. When you have identified this, you have found the super hero inside you.
When trying to balance work life, look inside to your own strengths, your own sources of power and use those things to feel satisfied about the job you do when you are at your best. I say it often in these pages because it is true, I am a church girl. The church girl inside me tells me that I have the power of God inside me and that I am the child of The King. This means that since I am created in the image of God, I have something super, special, wonderful and powerful inside me. It means I am a superwoman, a super hero.
Even if you do not share my faith, sit back and recognize the super, special, wonderful and powerful inside yourself. Recognize that you can do what you want, you can balance what needs to be balanced. Do not spend time thinking about your failures and the times you did not balance well. Instead, look at what you do well and build upon that. Look at yourself as a superwoman, a super hero. This point of view will encourage you, inspire you and motivate you to continue to seek work life balance. A superwoman, a super hero can do anything she sets her mind to do. You can succeed at the work life balance struggle when you start to recognize the superwoman and super hero inside you.
In conclusion, it is fantastic to realize that when it comes to work life balance you can succeed by being your own super hero. So, the question for you this fantastic day is, when are you going to recognize the super hero inside you?