It seems like society is always sending mixed messages to young women, especially about our appearance. Even though we're constantly told that we need to maintain a healthy body image, women are constantly judged by their appearance. They are expected to look perfect at all times. As much as we like to say that looks don't really matter, a lot of women are embarrassed to let their scars and other imperfections be seen.
According to mnveincenter.com, scarring can occur from accidents, from surgeries, or from skin and vein conditions. Some scars fade over time, but some are significantly enough to radically alter your appearance. If you suffer from scarring or other disfigurement, it can be tempting to let it influence your perception of yourself. Here are some things to keep in mind that might help you avoid this temptation and continue enjoying the waves.
The most important thing to remember about scars is that most people really won't care about them. In fact, they might not even notice them unless you draw attention to them. Nobody is physically perfect; even the most "beautiful" people in the world have scars and blemishes. You might think a movie star looks flawless on the cover of a magazine, but according to Sarah Young, what you are actually seeing is a normal person under heavy makeup posing for a photo that is meant to make them look as attractive as possible. They have their own physical imperfections, and if you were to see them in real life they would look no different from anybody else.
It's important to remember that we are our own worse critics. You might look at yourself and see an embarrassing scar, but most people won't give it a second thought. They are often hung up on their own insecurities and their own lives to instantly notice and judge someone else. Yes, there are people who feel the need to judge someone based on their appearance, but should you really care about what they have to say? First of all, they are almost always insecure about their own appearance, which is why they feel the need to tear someone else down to make themselves feel better. Second of all, we can all but guarantee that they will be jerks in other areas of their life, and nobody really cares what jerks really think. Focus on the many people who won't notice or care about your scars, and ignore the few who make a big deal about it.
Surfing is a tough sport, and injuries happen often. Some of these injuries leave scars. If this is where some of your own scars came from, maybe you have a cool story to go with them. That can turn a point of embarrassment into a point of pride. You're a surfer. You must have some cool story about how you risked your life and only walked away with a scar. That is nothing to be embarrassed about.
By far the most difficult tip in this article, it is by far the most important. Deborah Khoshaba from PsychologyToday.com says, “Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love is dynamic; it grows by actions that mature us. When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept much better our weaknesses as well as our strengths, have less need to explain away our short-comings, have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning, are more centered in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfillment through our own efforts.”
Care and attention to the opinion of others is an expression of a vulnerability in your soul. Perhaps it began as a wound in your past, an unfulfilled need, or is simply a charming element of your personality. Whatever the case, insecurity can only be beaten by embracing the belief that you are enough – that you are worthy of love, just for being you. While maintaining a healthy body can help, it’s important to recognize that your worthiness of love is not contingent upon how you look or what others think of you.
Screw them, and get back out there.