If you’ve been out of the dating scene for a while, let’s say, you were in a long-term relationship or focused on your studies or career, you’ll be astonished at the way people build relationships today. The life of millennials, the generation of young people in their 20s and 30s, has been greatly influenced by the technology that has had a significant impact on today’s culture in general and on dating culture, in particular. If you want to be in the picture, here are some dating habits that will help you gain insight into the contemporary dating game.
Texting vs. Calling
With the introduction of social networks, people started to enjoy the perks of communicating via text. Different social media and online dating sites are facilitating the indirect way of interaction. Millennials find it more convenient to get to know a person by exchanging messages. Today’s frantic pace of life has made calling an impermissible luxury. And it’s not mere words because an average millennial mainly texts because calling requires time, and young people are ready to give their time only to their nearest and dearest. In terms of meeting new people and getting to know them better, texting is vital. Firstly, it doesn’t commit you to anything. Secondly, it eliminates anxiety and those awkward moments of silence – you can take your time thinking what to ask and how to answer. Also, it allows you to stay in contact all the time when your relationship progresses.
Fear of Commitment
The problem of most millennials lies in their infantility. They can’t figure out what love and relationship are about that’s why they decide to stay away from something serious. They feel disillusioned because they remember beautiful fairy tales that always end happily and then they turn the TV on and hear that another celebrity couple broke up. When they realize that relationships can hurt, they get intimidated by the thought that their partner could betray them and leave them suffering. That’s why they choose to date without any commitment. They don’t want to join the ranks of newly divorced because this is not what they want. Their fear of commitment often prevents them from making any serious advancements in their relationships.
One-night stands with no strings attached have become a usual thing. This hookup culture has its opponents who say that it kills romance and proponents who say it legitimates casual sex. If you decided to get back into the dating game, it’s important to define what you expect from it. Are you interested in casual sex or in a true relationship? With a clear answer in mind, you’ll be able to weed out those dates who have different intentions.
Another effect of hookup culture is that most millennials don’t feel embarrassed talking about sex directly. That’s why don’t be surprised if already on a first date or while corresponding via social networks/dating sites, your date will get straight to the point and offer to have sex.
New Breakup Scenario
These days, it has become easier to deal with a breakup and forget the person you’ve dated. Millennials don’t want to have the goodbye conversation and don’t call to explain and to wish the best for their ex (calling is something they are not used to, remember?). They just fade away, disappear like a soap bubble. They use the perks of indirect communication to their advantage: stop sending messages, don’t answer the incoming ones, delete their dates from friends, and that’s it. There is one possible way to deal with such behavior – just forget that person and move on.