Hurricane Irma is coming straight for us, so I turned my laptop on to get as much homework done as possible before we lose power.
When my home page popped up, the first notice that dashed across my screen was that Troy Gentry died in a helicopter accident.
For you non-country listeners, Troy Gentry is the other half of Montgomey Gentry. This band has graced us with songs like “Something to be Proud of” and “My Town”. Their songs have so much power, and create a level of emotion that can seriously overwhelm you. It doesn't matter if you don't listen to "country" music... you will love Montgomery Gentry.
They have a power that you’ll never feel from modern pop singers.
I immediately burst into tears and literally couldn’t stop crying. My husband looked over, and I was pretty much hysterical. I didn’t know how to explain it to him, or have the ability to explain it to him… so of course he looked at me like I was insane.
Yes, I get sad when celebrities die… especially when they represent my childhood. I bawled all day at school when John Candy died… and Jessica Tandy had me crying too. I was really sad when Patrick Swayze died, and Prince got me pretty choked up. These were the heroes of my childhood.
I watched Dirty Dancing so many times I can recite it by heart. I LOVED Cocoon (1 and 2), and I loved ANYTHING with John Candy… and I’m sorry, but Prince NEVER made a bad song. I can’t think of one single song I don’t absolutely LOVE!
We mourn celebrity deaths because they mark an end to something important in our lives. Granted, we don’t know them in person… but they still represent something in our lives. I was a Junior in high school when John Candy died (yep, I’m that old). My boyfriend at the time thought I was insane, but I couldn’t stop crying. His death meant I wasn’t a child anymore. I’d grown up watching Splash, The Great Outdoors, and Spaceballs. In an instant, that era was gone.
When Prince died, it meant I was truly an adult now. I grew up to Rasberry Beret and When Doves Cry.
None of their deaths affected me like Troy Gentry’s has. Troy Gentry is different.
As anyone who has read my blog knows, I had a fiancée that passed away six years ago. He was an alcoholic who fell and hit his head on the concrete. He had two massive cerebral hemorrhages, and died five days before Christmas.
Living with an alcoholic is really hard. You constantly feel like a failure for not being able to help, and when you’re a working mom, you’re already spread so thin you don’t know what to work on first. You can beg, bargain, scream, and cry… but nothing will make them stop drinking.
Other than our son, Michael (who was 10 months old when his father died), listening to music on YouTube was one of the few happy times we had. He ALWAYS picked “Cold One Comin’ On” first. His mother passed away from cancer, so it had a special meaning to him.
After Mike died, I couldn’t listen to the song. The first time I listened to it (years later), I was hysterical. I ended up dehydrated… but it was therapeutic. Every time I listen to it, I cry... but it helped me deal with Mike's death.
The more I listened to the song, the more repressed emotion I was able to release.
The band never had any clue how much the helped me. I never wrote them... or thanked them. However, they were my saviors MANY, MANY times.
I realize the pain I’m feeling is NOTHING compared to what his family and friends are experiencing… but it’s still hard to deal with. It brings back the memories, emotions, and reality of Mike’s death.
My heart goes out to those that were truly close to him. I can only imagine what they are feeling. Please keep them in your prayers.
To both Eddie Montgomery and Troy Gentry... I should have said this a long time ago... but thank you.