It Takes A Village To Raise A Child. According to the Internet source Wikipedia, the famous African proverb: ‘It takes a village to raise a child!’ originated from the Nigerian Igbo culture and proverb ‘Oran a azu nwa’, which means it takes a community or village to raise a child. (www.ngopulse.org/article/it-takes-village-raise-child)
I do believe this in this proverb wholeheartedly, because the island culture here in the islands is very similar, and families are so close, that we are literally a village raising our children. At any given time, my boys are with my either, one of my sisters, my brothers in law, or my parents. And Vice Versa. There is an 8-6 1/2 adult to child ratio in my family right now, and at any given time, here is an adult present, an adult to go to, and we are all here to help with the children in our family.
My parents are very, very involved, as well as my sisters, and both brothers in law. We are all here to support each other, because that’s what we do. It is our job to make sure that our children have wonderful, safe, and comfortable childhoods. We create their holidays, their celebrations, as well as handle the not so happy parts of raising children too.
Here are some important reasons why it takes a village to raise children:
You Are Not the Only One that loves your kids
It’s most likely that you are not the only person in the world that loves your children. Let others love and indulge in your children the way you do. As their parent, no one will ever love them as much as you, but trust me when I say that I’m sure that your family members and friends love and care for your kids very much.
It’s Hard To Be a Parent
I don’t know if you have heard…but it’s really, really hard to be a parent. Parenting is tough, and can be exhausting for anyone. Sometimes you need a second, third, fourth, and fifth opinion. You will never always know what to do in every situation, and you’ll probably have to make difficult judgement calls all the time. A second or third pair of eyes, and others to bounce ideas off of is always a good idea. There will be times when you will need the talents, skills and insights of others in your village.
Strong Kids Come from a Close Family
If you have a close family with very strong family values, then you are raising strong children. They need to know that they come from a strong support system that contains people that they trust and can speak to. Sometimes that is not always going to be the parent. My children are comfortable talking to my sisters about some things that they are not comfortable talking to me about, and I’m ok with that. Because my nieces and nephews feel comfortable talking to me about things that they don’t want to talk to my sisters about. It’s what we are all here for.
Parents will Trust the People that are in Charge – and will have free time to work on their marriage/relationship
There will not be any guilt or worry when going on date nights, or taking a couple days away from the kiddies. You will trust the people they are with, because these people are already an important part in your lives.
Lastly – Parents and Children will not feel Lonely
It is not hard to feel alone when you are a parent…and even a child. You will not feel like the entire weight of your child’s world rests only on your shoulders. There are others around to share this with you, to help, to confide in, and to help you feel like everything is going to be OK. You will have people in your corner, whether these are family members or close friends.
Remember, life is short, and raising children is hard. Whenever we are faced with difficult tasks, we have a support system for everything else in life. In work, sports, anything – there is a team, a coach, a manager, and we share these difficult tasks with others. Why shouldn’t we be doing the same with our children, and our families. With people we trust.